At some point during the Twin Flame Journey our twin decides to 'ghost' us, aka the famous silent treatment. This is one of the most frustrating and painful parts of separation. It is safe to say that this behavior is one of the few that cut us deep, if not deeper than all combined. Usually this happens when your twin flame is trying to distance themselves from you by withdrawing their energy, either in the physical and/or in the spiritual realms. This reminds us that every twin flame relationship is very triggering and overwhelming due to the intense shadow work that is needed in the process of ascension, which often causes one of the twins to turn into a twin flame runner. You can read more about it runner vs chaser dynamic here.

If you are currently experiencing silent treatment by your Twin Flame while you are on the path to union and this comes suddenly, where no trigger or circumstance caused it, it could be a case of energy upgrades happening as part of the ascension process for the both of you. When this happens, it doesn't last too long, and when the twin finishes the integrations of the upgrades, their energy is going to be more intense and present than ever before.

If you are in separation from your twin flame and you are experiencing silence from your counterpart, your twin flame is clearly mirroring his own shadows and maybe some of your own too. It is important to remember that not every action a twin flame makes towards you is a mirror, but quite a lot of them are. You will eventually start to realise, the more that you ascend that your twin has your strong suits and your weaker points, which causes the mirroring effect. The mirroring effect serves as a reflection so you can see them and understand them in a way you wouldn’t have been able to before.This then leads to the point that you will have the necessary tools and knowledge to deal with your own shadows and serve as a support for your twin flame to work through theirs. Often, the twin flame runner will reflect your own inability or unwillingness to deal with some aspects of your own shadows, those that you kept buried deep inside or even ignored at some point in your life.

Why do Twin Flame runners give the silent treatment?

Although there are numerous reasons for this, as each pair of flames is on their own journey and have their own obstacles and circumstances, let's explore some common reasons why this happens.

They just had their first awakening or are going through energetic upgrades for ascension

Often in the beginning of the journey, when you first discover that you are Twin Flames, sometimes there is temporary silence as both as still getting used to the energies of your soul contract and getting used to the intensity of the bond.

It is important to understand that Twin Flames go through constant growth as they work through themselves and that their frequencies are constantly changing so they are always getting back in tune with one another all the time. It can happen that whilst the energies are being brought back into alignment, there is temporary disconnection or silence between the counterparts. This does not affect the bond at all, on the contrary, one you reconnect the bond grows stronger.

If you have been in the journey for a while now, you may notice that you have phases of energetic upgrades, this causes a bit of chaos sometimes as you may feel disconnected overall from the harmonic energies that you share with your counterpart. Understanding that this is divinely guided is key to navigate this phase quicker.

Twin Flame separation phase

When Twin Flames separate, this is an indicator that the runner twin is going through a phase of denial. Despite the journey, they have free will, and often they use their free will to put the journey on hold, which causes silence on their part. When a runner goes through the phase of denial, often its due to them feeling overwhelmed and triggered by the intensity of the connection. Later down the line they start to understand that your bond is unbreakable, despite time and distance.

The silent treatment does indeed have its negative effects. This can cause a lot of anxiety within the other counterpart. When this happens its because there are still some shadows to deal with. Although your mind may wonder, your soul knows that union is just a matter of time, within the human experience or not.

Sometimes our twins are also dealing with their own shadows during this phase, they can include personal space, communication and vulnerability - which is very intensely lived by the counterparts. It is crucial that you focus on your own journey and your own lessons during this time. Give yourself some grace, love and devotion, and take this break as a motivation to grow, heal and become the best version of yourself. You may not realise but as well as having a counterpart that you're connected to, you also send love energies to Mother Gaia as you are part of a collective of twin flames.

Remember that this is a step towards union, and don't give in to low vibrations at this time or you will be growing your shadows furthermore. Even though you may not be where you want to be, there is a lot you can't see, and very often rejection is a way of protection. It’s only a matter of time and space until you are both energetically aligned again so take this time to focus on you.