Twin Flames 101: Runner vs Chaser
In the world of the Twin Flames and their special journey, we find ourselves in a highly spiritual path that teaches us self-love, surrendering, balancing, growth and ascension. This journey leads us to an ascension in frequency as well as an extremely high-vibrational unconditional divine love also known as union.
Most of the journey consists of shadow work, working on your self and it is necessary that you understand that it will demand great commitment. In turn, this will lead you to spiritual ascension. The Twin Flame journey can become quite overwhelming or even exhausting. There is a lot of confusion as we navigate the paths that help us to fully find ourselves and that is when the runner/chaser effects occur.
What is a Twin Flame Runner?
A Twin Flame runner is someone who either avoids the Twin Flame journey altogether or someone who starts running away from the connection somewhere along the journey.
What is a Twin Flame Chaser?
The chaser is someone who is more aware as they are actively seeking and doing their best to do their work and understand the journey, so they can move towards the path of Union.
Runner vs Chaser dynamic
The runner vs chaser dynamic is often misinterpreted and confusing because of the emotions and the feelings that rise with the journey.
When Twin Flames are in separation stage, one pursues the path to separation and the other pursues the path to Union. In other words, one runs from their Twin Flame whilst the other chases their Twin Flame.
When it comes to the runner vs chaser dynamic, not everything is as it seems. Although it may look like the runner is running away from their twin, this is far from the truth - the runner is simply running from themselves and from the work that needs to be done in the journey.
It is no secret that Twin Flames trigger one another on a very deep level. Both trigger each other energetically and this effect causes both counterparts to see or feel the trigger in the physical, highlighting the work that needs to be done on themselves individually.
There are many reasons why one counterpart could choose to be the runner, most of them related to their personal, emotional, and spiritual development - or a mix of all.
I personally see the runner as a cry for help. Imagine that you meet someone who you love so deeply that words fail to explain the feeling, who energetically and physically challenges you to become the best version of yourself without giving you the tools to do so, just by pointing out what needs to be done. Someone who is your perfect mirror and exposes your vulnerability, lack of confidence or faith. Pretty deep stuff, right?
This is why the Twin Flame chaser must carry the energy of support, infinite patience, and unconditional love. This not only helps the runner energetically as the chaser is holding that energetic safe space for them but it also helps the chaser on their own path towards ascension. If any resentments, grief or guilt arise in the process, these are simply shadows that need to be dealt with and healed throughout the ascension process.
Does the Twin Flame Runner love the Twin Flame Chaser?
Although it may not seem so, they do. They love their counterpart deeply! In fact, they can't NOT love you as you both have a connection that transcends the physical, your souls are bonded eternally. Remembering that you both are in fact reflections of one another, what might seem a lack of love for you, is in fact what is missing within them - love for themselves.
A Twin Flame connection cannot be broken, even in the after life they are still your Twin Flame. This is a sacred soul connection that consists of a higher dimensional sacred love. Twin Flames share the same higher consciousness that is merged once union is achieved, both spiritual and in the physical world.
As briefly discussed earlier, one Twin Flame is always more awakened than the other, so they lead. As a factor of karmic circumstances as well as each Twin Flame's individual journey, not all Twin Flames are conscious and are yet to awaken to their journey, whilst others are subconsciously and some consciously already navigating their journeys in search of their soul's truth.
What does the Twin Flame Runner truly feel?
Every journey is unique and each Twin Flame has their own path to fulfill, both individually as together. Sometimes one Twin Flame ends up running due to the complexity and amount of self-work that is required to be in ascension and union. Some Twin Flames run before they make physical contact with their Twin, whilst others after. Some start running after they get into a relationship with the other counterpart, others before they reach that stage. Each journey truly is unique but the feelings always remain.
Part of the Twin Flame journey is self-development. This work carries one towards ascension and union, whilst navigating the complex, intense, highly-triggering and confusing emotions and circumstances that arise in between.
Anxiety & Feeling Overwhelmed
Quite a vast number of Twin Flames feel anxious when they find out they are in fact Twin Flames. The triggers are different to each individual but some causes of feeling anxious are: feeling their counterpart's energy in their own energetic field or feeling the absence of their divine counterpart.This is for both chasers and runners.
Although some Twin Flames are in fact aware of their counterparts energy presence, some are not, and it takes a lot of growth and time to learn their own energy so they are able to separate them both as well as understanding that their counterpart is not trying to scare them, their energy is present to love and support them in their individual journey.
Some Twin Flames feel anxious and pressured to go into Union with their counterpart or to be in their presence. For some Twins, the pressure is so intense that they feel like the only way to reduce it is to stay as far as possible from their Twin, which obviously doesn't work and it only intensifies their feelings.
As you can probably understand by all of the above, this journey is quite complex and intense but also very rewarding and fulfilling. This is not a ordinary physical relationship and it is very easy to become overwhelmed by the complexity of its journey. We are talking about dealing with all the intensity their soul deals with due to the journey itself, plus the added pressure of their choice of running or chasing in an attempt to lessen or resolve some of that sense of being overwhelmed and to top it off the triggering behaviors that make them feel even more overwhelmed. Quite a rollercoaster!
Resistance
Resistance in the Twin Flame journey comes with being unable or unwilling to do the necessary work that leads to their ascension and union. This really and truly does take a LOT of work and commitment in the long run and some Twins are not consciously aware of the journey, whilst others are and choose not to do the work. This is nothing more than a shadow of self-sabotaging behaviour that needs to be healed and so one can release the need to be in control.
The inability or refusal to deal with shadow work in the Twin Flame journey only longs out the process and delays ones personal growth and harmony. As a result, it also delays the ascension and union process.